Does Money Hold You Back From Everything?

     Does money hold you back from everything? Not an abundance but a lack there of. Unfortunately most of us fall into the lack there of category. Does every purchase have the potential of wrecking your whole monthly budget? Have you put off medical, dental and vision care because of money? Are you eating unhealthy food not because you want to but because you have to? Do you shy away from social activities because you cannot afford to participate? Is all your clothing out of date, shabby and ill fitting?
     If you answered yes to any one of these questions money is probably holding you back in some fashion. Yes it is true that you cannot have everything and you are always going to want something you just can't have. So we have to adapt to a lifestyle or lack there of to get by. Getting by is not really a great thing if it keeps you from having some kind of a fulfilling life. You withdraw from society in shame. As you can not and after a while do not want to participate. You remember the saying If you can't run with the big dogs stay on the porch. A simple saying but how true it is. 
     So what do you do? Work harder and longer. So you work harder, but you are paid by the hour so you just end up doing all the work. You work longer, but your company has cut out overtime. You get a second job but your primary job schedule fluctuates so much you cannot commit to a second schedule.       
     Maybe a hobby that you have can generate some money. Maybe you are good with carpentry, gardening, bicycles, tutoring, housecleaning, sewing, handy person, decorating, painting, watch repair, sports, writing, musical instruments, auto detailing, auto repair, computers, appliances and any number of things that you may have a good working knowledge of. One caution is that you may create a liability and do not have a license. So any revenue must be on a cash basis with the understanding that you are not a professional. This then may not be a viable option then. 
     Magazines show the rich and famous spending enormous amounts of money on everything form houses to partying. Clothes, cars, everything. And we feel so sad when they are break up, turn out at a party in ugly clothes, get fat or thin, pregnant, cheat on each other and everything else. Famous athletes and stars were not created for nothing. They were created to generate revenue for someone and it ain't you. People love and feel for them. Then in the twilight of their careers they are still generating revenue for someone selling you make up or insurance. For the most part if you were laying on the ground on fire, they would not pee on you to put you out. 
     The bottom line is that money is important is your life. It is the instrument that motivates most of every action we take. What you eat. What you live in. What you drive (if you do). What you wear. Who you know. Who you hang out with. Your quality of life if you will. In the event that you prefer a quiet life that is up to you also. There is nothing wrong with that. You go to work. You go home. You do your chores. You do not bother anyone. Best for a low budget. Be pleasant to who you see and go on. Keeps you out of trouble too!
     To a certain extent money does hold you back.You just cannot have everything Cart Blanche. But it does not have to hold you back from everything. There are things to do without spending money. Every form of entertainment or hobby does not have to cost money. Or maybe not that much. 
     If you have to spend money on people to have friends they are probably not friends anyway. You know you have friends as long as you are paying the bar tab. 
     Another thing to remember is that most people are so busy with what they have on their plate they are not paying as much attention to you as you would think. As long as you are somewhat pleasant and not offensive it doesn't make that much difference. So do not worry about it. 
     Also do not force yourself upon people. If they want to talk to or be with you they will. And if they do not they will not however much you try. This will only lead to disappointment and ill will. 
     Being said you do not make that much money. You feel that it is holding you back. But it is not holding you back as much as you think. It is your perception that money is holding you back. If you thought a new car, clothes and a Rolex watch is going to make you Mr. or Ms. special you are wrong. If people truly like you you will know it. If they don't most will be cordial and just be pleasant and get away from you. Unless you really make them mad and they have to get in your face. 
     A lot of happy people in the world do not have a lot of money. But personality. And if you do not have personality no amount of money can buy that for you. After you get over the denial period just realize that it is not the amount of money you have. It is your personality. That is what is probably holding you back from what you think you want. I say what you think you want because when you are at a juncture to achieve what you want you don't want it anyway. Then you end up hurting someone who thought you were cool and turn out to be the butt hole everyone else thinks you are. 
     Going back to the Running with the big dogs, this may not be possible. As the big dogs may not have a lot of money. But some personality. And no matter how much money you have you will eternally be the yelping Yorkie on the porch.